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Looking for a solid relationship? Here are 6 questions you should ask yourself before you jump into a relationship.
1.WHAT DO YOU WANT OUT OF LIFE? I asked this question because lots of us don’t even know what we want out of life. So how can we have any direction on what we want or who we want if we don’t even know what that is?
2.WHAT DO YOU WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP? After finding out what you want in life, this next question becomes easier to answer. If you want a God fearing guy, then you probably won’t choose the dude with all the tattoos and no home training. If you want a bad boy, then you probably won’t choose the guy who’s a square. There are so many who don’t care. They just don’t want to be alone, so they choose the person who’s showing them attention at the moment. So you have to ask yourself this question. It will be a whole lot harder for someone to come in and sell you a dream once you find the answer to this one.
3.WHAT ARE 3 WORDS TO DESCRIBE YOUR IDEAL MATE? It’s always good to want good characteristics from your mate. A lot of us often live in the “fairytale world” of our ideas, and what we want things to be, instead of living in the present world of “what is.” This is why we get upset and disappointed when the other person doesn’t meet those expectations of what they think a person should be. A person will never be able to meet that standard. Take the blinders off and see a person for what and who they really are.
4.WHAT DO YOU DISLIKE ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS? The answers to the first 3 questions may reveal even though a person may be “delicious,” we probably don’t need to waste time with them. “I’ll just ignore those red flags.” I have to take a chance on love to win right? We disregard signs right off, and we still go through with it because we “want it.” I’ve done it; we all have done it even when we knew the person didn’t have our best interest in mind, or may not have been the one for us.You know what you don’t want. Figure this out and DON’T choose the guy with those qualities. Don’t ignore those “red flags.”
5.WHAT DO YOU LOVE ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS? Find out what drives you, what makes you happy, what makes you smile, and make sure the person who is currently courting or pursuing you has those traits. Make sure to focus on these things in a person. Positive attitudes breed positive results.
6.AM I READY FOR SOMETHING LONG TERM? A lot of us ask for someone special, and when they cross our paths, we aren’t ready. We might have extra baggage, insecurities, or attitude problems. Make sure you’re ready to be tied down, otherwise enjoy dating and stop looking for something serious. In my book “The Truth: Blueprint to Relationships” I talk about starting with a fresh clean slate, and leaving your baggage out of a new relationship in chapter 7, “Baggage Claim.”
These are a few you can use to evaluate where you are in your relationship, or for those looking for a mate, which direction they should be looking in. You can implement these right now to start building a healthy relationship, and watch the transformation happen before your very eyes.
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The area of relationships is such a major factor in people’s lives that it can affect their standard of living. That’s why I’ve devoted entire chapters to addressing these issues in my book. To get an in-depth guide to navigating relationships, check out my book, The Truth: Keepin’ it 100: The Blueprint to Relationships.