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If you have some kind of gut feeling you might not be the only person your partner is talking to, check out these few tips to help recognize some signs.

Today, the general atmosphere surrounding the “other” person or the side person is totally different than it was  even just 5 years ago. There have always been people who have played this role, and I mention this in my book The Truth: Blueprint to Relationships in chapter 2, when I mention the different categories different people fall in.

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In some cases, people don’t want to be tied down, so the side person arrangement works for them. Others are just greedy. But for the ones who want a quality relationship, they may be oblivious to signs that might suggest they aren’t the only ones in the picture. Here are 5 ways to tell if the person you’re talking to has someone else. In most cases, people are in committed relationships, or married. There are several factors that would make them betray their partners’ trust. But this is geared towards educating you on a few signs you aren’t the only one.

  1. They only call you at certain times. If they never respond in a reasonable amount of time, or always respond only at certain times. Can only be reached at specific times and dates.
  2. They can’t give you the attention you want. Does it seem like they are always busy?
    You only see them or are allowed to visit them on certain days or times, and you notice the pattern. (same day every week, etc)
  3. They never want to take pictures or they tell you not to ever post any pictures the two of you take on social media. ( they get really defensive or intense, or threaten you if you mention posting it)
  4. They can’t take you out in public or you can’t be seen together anywhere in public.
  5. They don’t pick you up during normal hours. You are always being entertained only really late at night or early in the morning, or odd times.

One obvious one I didn’t list here is they tell you. Many people think they can change a person, or take them away from a certain situation if they do something better than another. For instance if they are a better cook, can please the person sexually far better than their counterparts, they somehow feel that if they have a special connection, the other person will leave their partner. Most times, the person just strings them along.

Take their word for what it is. If they tell you they are with someone else, don’t get caught in your feelings when they don’t leave their significant other, and better than that, just don’t entertain them if they mention their situation is “complicated” or they can’t give you a straight answer, or their time. You are worth the time.

Some folks don’t ask. And some people won’t tell if you don’t ask. Ask the right questions today. Don’t be someone’s #2. You deserve to be someone’s queen. You deserve to be #1 in someone’s life. Don’t devalue your self worth. For your worth is far above rubies. Be a Proverbs woman. (Proverbs 31: 10-12) You can read through to the end of verse 31 for more empowering words of comfort and wisdom.

Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. (KJV Crown Copyright in UK)

Every man wants that. If he’s still playing the field, he is not ready for a serious committed relationship.


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The area of relationships is such a major factor in people’s lives that it can affect their standard of living. That’s why I’ve devoted entire chapters to addressing these issues in my book. To get in -depth guide to navigating relationships, check out my book, The Truth: Keeping it 100: The Blueprint to Relationships.

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